Autobiographical memory is indexed by life context, not by people. That’s why Amure’s first session mentions no one — and that’s why it works.
Your cities, your flats, your studies, your jobs. Five minutes, no emotional weight, and the page is already not blank: the chapters of your timeline fill themselves in.
Then Amure asks period by period, never person by person. Thirty seconds per entry, six to ten in one session. Depth comes later, one relationship at a time, in an order the app chooses — and the current one comes last.
Nobody has ever seen their romantic life as an object. Two strands braid during a relationship, run parallel while you’re on your own, and go dotted where something is missing. Gaps aren’t a reproach: they’re the next questions.
It’s the only thing Amure asks you to keep up. It starts the moment session one ends: a habit forms in the first seven days, or never.
Nothing you see later is ever asked of you directly. The five indicators — unspoken words, initiative asymmetry, peripheral erosion, escalation speed, volatility — are derived from these six answers.
Six screens, from the factual to the loaded. The sitting is private and may say uncomfortable things; whatever you share afterwards, if anything, is a separate object containing only what you confirmed or wrote yourself.
A month with a break-up drops into reduced mode on its own, with no hypothesis. An empty month is a single screen, without guilt. A month on your own is a full sitting.
About fifteen hand-written rules, two crossed dimensions at most, one hypothesis per sitting. The reference is never a population: it’s your own distribution. If nine of your twelve meetings came from an app, saying you meet people on apps is noise — so the rule says nothing.
Your three longest relationships all started at work — yet work accounts for only 3 of your 12 meetings.
A yes creates a recurrence. A no mutes the rule, durably. A rule that can’t show the entries behind it has no right to exist — and on a timeline with no pattern, the engine must stay silent. An engine that always finds something is broken.